Love The Anger
When I say, the parents love the anger more than their child.....it's a figure of speech. What that means is, they are so consumed with anger that they overlook their children's best interests. The focus is on the threat or trigger person like grandparents and not on the child's wants.
Many parents are of the "me" generation and their wants often get in the way of anyone elses.
Maybe this is why it's appropriate to say: NO VOICE=NO CHOICE when it comes to children.